Lets talk about cyber/ online abuse

Let’s talk about cyber/online abuse

Cyber or online abuse exists, it’s rife and there’s little wonder why. The virtual world is huge – chat rooms, online gaming, social media, messaging, video calls, live streaming, downloading, sexting, Wifi, Emojis… the list goes on and on. What lies behind this virtual world however are real and significant threats.

In this article, we’re aiming to raise awareness and critically what support there is out there for anyone affected by this every growing concern.

Who can be affected by cyber abuse?

Abuse can affect anyone regardless of gender, age, or background. While women are disproportionately impacted, men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and young people are also at risk. The truth is, anyone can be a victim. That’s why, whether you spend a lot of time online yourself or have family and friends who do, what follows is important to know.

Cyber abuse refers to the use of digital technologies such as phones, social media, messaging apps, and email to harass, control, threaten, or harm another person. It can include:

• Online stalking or surveillance
• Threatening or abusive messages
• Sharing private images without consent (revenge porn)
• Impersonation or identity theft
• Controlling access to technology or online spaces

Cyber abuse is not just a digital issue either, it is also a form of psychological violence that can deeply affect a person’s sense of safety, autonomy, and mental health.

Recognising the signs:

Recognising the signs of cyber abuse is crucial for early intervention and support.

1. Excessive Monitoring or Surveillance

• Partner constantly checks your phone, emails, or social media.
• Uses spyware or tracking apps without your consent.
• Demands access to your passwords or devices.

2. Controlling Online Behaviour

• Tells you who you can or can’t talk to online.
• Forces you to delete contacts or social media accounts.
• Controls what you post or how you present yourself online.

3. Threats and Intimidation

• Sends threatening or degrading messages via text, email, or social media.
• Uses online platforms to humiliate or blackmail you.
• Threatens to share private photos or information (image-based abuse).

4. Impersonation and Identity Abuse

• Pretends to be you online to damage your reputation.
• Creates fake accounts to harass or monitor you.
• Posts false or harmful content in your name.

5. Isolation Through Technology

• Cuts you off from friends or family by blocking contacts or deleting messages.
• Floods your phone with calls or messages to prevent you from communicating with others.
• Uses technology to make you feel watched, trapped, or unsafe

Staying Safe Online

• Use strong, unique passwords and enable two-factor authentication.
• Regularly update privacy settings on social media and apps.
• Be cautious about sharing personal information or images.
• Avoid clicking on suspicious links or downloading unknown files.
• Use antivirus and anti-spyware software to protect your devices.

What Does the Law Say?

In the UK, several laws address cyber abuse:

• Malicious Communications Act 1988 and Communications Act 2003: Make it illegal to send threatening or offensive messages.
• Protection from Harassment Act 1997: Covers stalking and persistent online harassment.
• Domestic Abuse Act 2021: Recognises controlling or coercive behaviour, including digital abuse, as a form of domestic violence.
• Cyber Security and Resilience Bill (2025): Aims to strengthen protections for digital services and infrastructure, including measures to address cyber threats and abuse