Support for men

Call for help now:

Bradford Survive and Thrive One Front Door helpline:

0808 2800 999

National Domestic Abuse Helpline:

0808 2000 247
In an emergency, call 999

In the Bradford District, we have specific services who can support male victims of domestic abuse and sexual violence. This page is for any male who thinks or knows that they are a victim and need help and support. 

You are not alone in this…

  • For every three victims of domestic abuse, two will be female, one will be male. 
  • One in six to seven men suffer from domestic abuse in their lifetime.
  • Of domestic abuse crimes recorded by the police, 26% were committed against men. This equates to around 155,000 offences per year.
  • Half of male victims (49%) fail to tell anyone they are a victim of domestic abuse and are two and a half times less likely to tell anyone than female victims (19%).

 

Are you a victim? 

Most men do not believe or feel they are a victim until they realise that they don’t have control of their life and have become isolated. Whatever your circumstance, remember you are not to blame, you are not weak and you are not alone.

This checklist can help clarify some general issues regarding abuse. It can help you understand if you are a victim of domestic abuse and what you should do about it.

  • Are you unable to see certain friends or family members?
  • Are you ever frightened about how your partner or family member will react to you?
  • Do your family members or partner ever put you down and belittle you?
  • Does your partner or family member pester you for money, control your access to money or withhold your own money or credit cards?
  • Do you get the blame when your partner or family member gets angry?
  • Do you feel that you don’t have a say in your relationships with other people?
  • Do you ever feel controlled by your partner or family?
  • Does your partner or family member constantly call, text you or check up on you?
  • Does your partner or family member make unreasonable demands on you? 
  • Do you feel pressured or smothered in your relationship with them?
  • Are you criticised because of the things you say or do?
  • Are you ever punched, slapped, kicked or physically and sexually abused in any other way by a partner or family member?

If you answer yes to any of the above then we have a list of services below who can help you. 

(Source: Mankind)

Where to find support

If you feel you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call the Police on 999.

Men’s support services, Bradford

Bradford Council’s Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence team have collated an information booklet called ‘What’s out there for me?’ aiming to support male victims of domestic abuse.

Survive and Thrive

Survive and Thrive is a partnership of Staying Put, Family Action and WomenCentre. The service is designed to help anyone who has experienced domestic abuse. They can help with:

  • Emergency safe refuge and dispersed accommodation in Bradford
  • Short and long-term support services
  • Specialist support for survivors and recovery support groups.

They also have a helpline called the One Front Door. You can call the free helpline on 0808 2800 999. It is open Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 4:30pm.

There is an online live chat available Monday to Friday 5.00pm- 8:00pm, and 11.00am-2.00pm on weekends. This is available to access on the Staying Put website. 

Ben’s place at Survivors West Yorkshire

Specialise support for men who have suffered sexual abuse

  • Connects survivors and their supporters to professional services that work well for them
  • Focus is on internet support whilst exploring and developing new off-line options for survivors

Call or text the helpline on 07393 140 250

Men Reaching Out

Male domestic abuse service specialising in help for the South Asian community. Providing support in the community and peer support.

Contact 01274 731020 or email them

Men Standing Up

Support services for male victims of domestic abuse

  • They offer a confidential, free-to-use telephone helpline service. We can offer you emotional support and provide information and signpost you to other specialist services
  • They have units of emergency accommodation for men in a crisis situation, needing immediate support.
  • They also manage term supported accommodation. Support will be provided by an experienced dedicated supported housing officer.

Call the free helpline on 0300 3030 167

ManKind Initiative

National male domestic abuse service. Providing  information, support and signposting to men suffering from domestic abuse from their current or former wife, partner (including same-sex partner) or husband. 

Contact 01823 334244, weekdays from 10am – 4pm.